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Children Need Both Parents: Happy Thanksgiving to all on this very important holiday. Many are without their children through these times, which definitely takes its' toll on people, so we decided to have a special episode. Last night on Get Off The Bench we discussed making it through the holidays, had some prayer time, and also shared information from Chrissy Chrzanowski, Pamela Wright, and other participants.
Chrissy Chrzanowski, an adult survivor of Parental Alienation has a parental alienation support website at http://www.parentalienationhurts.com and shares some tips on making it through the holidays without your children.
Pamela Wright, from the Alliance for Single Parents, that assists parents through high-conflict at http://www.allianceforsingleparents.com/ shared some tips about high-conflict court cases and the trying holiday times.
Get Off The Bench Thanksgiving Special Episode
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Many people enter courtrooms daily with a feeling that they will obtain justice in American courtrooms with fair hearings and impartial trials. As many litigants leave the very same doors, they often have a perspective drastically different about the competence and integrity of the legal system in its' entirety. Unfortunately, entering an American courtroom armed only with the truth or on an ideal of what is morally right is no longer enough as the systems originally created by our forefathers to be impartial are plagued with procedures, rules, conflicts of interests, and more that only seem to benefit lawyers, judges, and state actors.
An understanding of court rules, statutes, rules of evidence, investigation procedures, and more are all necessary to properly understand how to properly represent yourself in the courtroom, but more importantly how to monitor representation if you are paying for it. It is best to study up this type of information before retaining an attorney or entering a courtroom.
We need to have transparently operating court systems that are not bound by contracts to perform for other branches of the government and also court systems that are not so focused on revenue generation for themselves and the other branches of the various levels of government. In the interim it is imperative to understand and guard yourself against lawyers that are merely guiding you through an administrative system quickly rather than advocating for you judicially completely.
If you have specific information in the state court information that you would like added, just email us at getyourjusticelive@sbcglobal.net and we will consider it for the public resource pages. By increasing the information available to the general public, it increases the level of competence and thereby raises the integrity of the courts where litigants can police judicial activities.
Now here is a novel approach to advocacy that you can prepare for this week. Lighting Candles Worldwide... How cheap is a candle for you, your family, and your friends. Take out an ad with your local non-profit organization, or one of your choosing, and let your local community know a place that you will be at to light candles on December 18, 2008 (7PM Eastern) for our children and their need to have both parents and extended family members involved in their lives.
From the Lighting Candles Worldwide Website:
Imagine for a moment Lighting Candles World Wide and all at the same time. Imagine your child knowing we are Lighting Candles World Wide just for them.
We have given this a lot of thought and we have come to the conclusion that everyone can light a candle at their home or in their home town at a designated place.
You can be apart of Lighting Candles World Wide to show a united front for the children and their need to have both parents and grandparents in their lives.
We have chosen December 18, 2008 at 7:00 PM Eastern Standard Time (more time zones below) for our first annual Lighting Candles World Wide which is exactly one week before Christmas. This is the hardest time of year for those missing their children, but especially for the children who are missing a parent or grandparents or in some casessiblings and of course their extended family.
Thank you to Three-Sides-To-Every-Story for initiating this simple and effective event that people in every community can enjoy. Just take an ad out this week or next and let people know about it. Work with a church, school, or other non-profit organizatons to bring this issue to the public eye. Be sure to invite press and have a press release ready.
The Great Parental Alienation Debate on Get Off The Bench occurred November 5, 2008. Some of you know that I recently wrote an article on Stand Up Today. The name of the article was "Is It Really Our Exs Fault?" The purpose of the blog article was to demonstrate that blaming our ex-spouses as "evil geniuses masterminding and manipulating" or a "by-product of system dysfunction."
I have claimed repeatedly that the super majority of Parental Alienation is caused by system dysfunction. Some people disagree, but so far all who have joined us on Get Off The Bench on seem to have come to a similar conclusion. Those that disagree slowly are coming around and understanding that their ex-spouses are merely participating in a system that allows parental alienation to exist and encourages two parents to continue fighting against each other for money, children, and property as the final prize. Invites were sent out to numerous leaders and we were joined with a very lively chat board discussing the topic of Parental Alienation.
In addition, we had a surprise guest from Wisconsin. Pamela Wright of the Alliance for Single Parents joined us to discuss Parental Alienation and is quoted as saying... "I think if the system wasn't setup the way that it is that parental alienation would not even by an issue." She comes in around 40 minutes into the show with a thorough discussion on the topic and several other commentators joined us until the end of the show. Her experience and understanding of parental alienation is an invaluable addition to the show.
We also covered differentiating parental alienation from child abuse/neglect as covered by Richard Gardner in 1999. Many people have tried to mesh Parental Alienation as Child Abuse, while Gardner clearly demonstrates that they are separate. We also explored yahoo group behavior and and conformity versus non-conformity in getting to the truth and facts. Sometimes people are following and being encouraged to fight the wrong enemy. See a spiritual lesson for those that share in a similar faith about fighting the wrong enemy below.
You don't want to miss this episode this episode of Get Off The Bench.
We need to respect and protect the parent-child relationship to eliminate parental alienation. The solution is parental rights protection and recognizing that parents are co-equal. Let's work together to make this possible.
Spiritual Lesson Regarding Fighting the Right Enemy.
"For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh. (2 Corinthians 10:3)
Do you know why so many believers are losing the battles in their lives?
They're fighting the wrong enemy!
They've been deceived into believing that just because a person said or did something to hurt them, that person is the one they need to fight.
But they're wrong.
You see, the Bible says we don't wrestle with flesh and blood. And since people are definitely flesh and blood, they're never the source of our problem.
It doesn't matter. If you waste your time fighting So-and-so, your real enemy will get away scot-free.
Who is that real enemy? Look at Ephesians 6:12, "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places."
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