Lary Holland: Official Blog, Links, and Resources

I have claimed repeatedly that the super majority of Parental Alienation is caused by system dysfunction. Some people disagree, but so far all who have joined us on Get Off The Bench on seem to have come to a similar conclusion. Those that disagree slowly are coming around and understanding that their ex-spouses are merely participating in a system that allows parental alienation to exist and encourages two parents to continue fighting against each other for money, children, and property as the final prize. Invites were sent out to numerous leaders and we were joined with a very lively chat board discussing the topic of Parental Alienation.

In addition, we had a surprise guest from Wisconsin. Pamela Wright of the Alliance for Single Parents joined us to discuss Parental Alienation and is quoted as saying... "I think if the system wasn't setup the way that it is that parental alienation would not even by an issue." She comes in around 40 minutes into the show with a thorough discussion on the topic and several other commentators joined us until the end of the show. Her experience and understanding of parental alienation is an invaluable addition to the show.

We also covered differentiating parental alienation from child abuse/neglect as covered by Richard Gardner in 1999. Many people have tried to mesh Parental Alienation as Child Abuse, while Gardner clearly demonstrates that they are separate. We also explored yahoo group behavior and and conformity versus non-conformity in getting to the truth and facts. Sometimes people are following and being encouraged to fight the wrong enemy. See a spiritual lesson for those that share in a similar faith about fighting the wrong enemy below.

You don't want to miss this episode this episode of Get Off The Bench.

We need to respect and protect the parent-child relationship to eliminate parental alienation. The solution is parental rights protection and recognizing that parents are co-equal. Let's work together to make this possible.

Spiritual Lesson Regarding Fighting the Right Enemy.

"For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh. (2 Corinthians 10:3)

Do you know why so many believers are losing the battles in their lives?

They're fighting the wrong enemy!

They've been deceived into believing that just because a person said or did something to hurt them, that person is the one they need to fight.

But they're wrong.

You see, the Bible says we don't wrestle with flesh and blood. And since people are definitely flesh and blood, they're never the source of our problem.

It doesn't matter. If you waste your time fighting So-and-so, your real enemy will get away scot-free.

Who is that real enemy? Look at Ephesians 6:12, "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places."

Trial by Money Host, Robert Neff, joined Get Off The Bench with Lary Holland on Wednesday October 29, 2008. The two had a casual discussion on what just about anyone can do to get involved with reforming the many problems that exist in today's hostile family court environment. Robert Neff discussed his campaign against the retention of one Illinois Judge as well as the a variety of topics ranging from the "End of America" to "Non-Violent Civil Disobedience." Listen today if you missed the live broadcast.

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RADAR: Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting. Despite the best of intentions, our nation's effort to curb domestic violence is not working. Current solutions not only fail to reduce domestic violence, but also create other severe problems. Families are being undermined and children harmed. Innocent Americans are penalized based on false accusations. And victims of violence are re-victimized by a rigid system that ignores their wishes, or excludes them altogether.

Alan Karmin joined host Lary Holland on Get Off The Bench on October 1, 2008 to discuss Domestic Violence Awareness Month, RADAR, raising the evidentiary standards on Personal Protection Orders, and many other necessary changes to the Domestic Violence Programs in the United States.

To listen or download this Episode of Get Off The Bench.

Information about Alan Karmin:

Alan Karmin is an award-winning writer and published author. In his latest work, The Measure of a Man. The Measure of a Man, Alan documents his odyssey going up against an unfriendly family court system after being falsely accused of domestic violence by his ex-wife.

Honored by the New Jersey State Legislature for “Praiseworthy Determination and Spirit,” he has been an active board member of the Family Support Organization of Union County, New Jersey Council for Children’s Rights, Safe Harbor Child Access Centers and RADAR (Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting).

An expert in management and building of non-profit organizations, Alan is the Executive Director of Literacy Volunteers of Somerset County, as well as Director of the New Jersey Alliance for Family Support Organizations. He has also held titles as Executive Director of Development of Easter Seals New Jersey, the Tri-County Chapter of the American Red Cross and Bloomfield College .

Alan graduated from the University of Miami , Coral Gables , Florida with a degree in Communications. A resident of Westfield , New Jersey , he is a single father with sole custody of his two children.

About the Episode. Discussions ranging from the Violence Against Women Act, the Landmark New Jersey Case Crespo v. Crespo, Fix Vawa Now, and False Allegations of Domestic Violence hurting real victims.

You can vote on the article at current.com.

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Many of you read and participated in the Detroit News: Michigan Father Fights for a Joint Custody Law through the story and the poll. What you might not realize is that something was missing from the story and both Robert Pedersen, an upcoming second year participant in the Equal Parenting Bike Trek in August, and Tawnya Bollin, Media Director of the National Association of Non Custodial Moms (NANCM) exposed the issue with Lary Holland from Get Off The Bench.

The Detroit News interviewed Beverly Morris, Founder of NANCM, and was told that there are over 4 MILLION Non-Custodial Mothers throughout the United States. This fact was not well-represented in the above referenced story, and I think for good reason. The reality is that the statements made by the opposition of equal rights for children to access both parents absent a strong reason to the contrary would have been obliterated with the exposed reality that all of these non-custodial mothers think that Equal Parenting should be the norm, not the exception.

The Court has no clothes and if you missed the live episode of Get Off The Bench last Wednesday, you can listen to it right here by clicking Play on the below player.

Spread the word and help make this year's events, like the Equal Parenting Bike Trek a success by posting the information to media sources around the nation! Let everyone know that this affects everyone! Together, MOTHERS, FATHERS, GRANDMOTHERS, GRANDFATHERS, AUNTS, UNCLES, AND COUSINS can all make a difference for our Nation's children and families.

UPDATE!!! The Equal Parenting Bike Trek will be received by the National DC FESTIVAL 2008 at Upper Senate Park in Washington DC on August 15 and 16 (2008)