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Allegations Of Child Sexual Abuse In Divorce Cases: Responding To Criminal Charges

Tawnya Maddox and Chrissy Chrzanowski were hosting a live talk show program on Friday August 29, 2008, known as SplitNTwo, with guest Dr. Reena Sommer. The topic was essentially how to handle false allegations of child sexual abuse in high-conflict divorce and custody cases. These issues have a significant relationship to Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting, where one parent attempts to sour the other parents relationship with their own children. Parental Alienation and using these tactics are also "child abuse."

Dr. Reena Sommer specializes in addressing issues pertaining to false allegations of child sexual abuse and also maintains several web resources like the website: Solutions4PAS

"A major thrust of Dr. Sommer's work is in the area of separation and divorce and assisting divorcing couples explore options in restructuring their lives. In the past, Dr. Sommer conducted court ordered custody evaluations and oversaw courted ordered supervised access. From time to time, Dr. Sommer is asked to provide expert testimony."

"Dr. Sommer is guided by the belief that children should not be denied a relationship with their parents simply because their moms and dads decide to divorce. She views her role as a family life consultant to help men and women develop effective parenting plans that make it possible for them to maintain a positive connection with their children."

I was able to pose a couple of questions, comments, but more importantly discovered an amazing resource for parents that suspect false allegations might come up from the other parent and shared it with those that were participating. I shared the resource below with Chrissy Chrzanowski, Tawnya Maddox, Dr. Amy Baker, Dr. Reena Sommer, and Katrina Daniels, whom I often refer to as the "Parental Alienation Task Force."

THE RESOURCE: DISTINGUISHING BETWEEN TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE IN DIVORCE CASES: RESPONDING TO CRIMINAL CHARGES.

The article/study was authored Charles E. Bridges of Bridges, Nichols & Seibel. The link above is a repost of the original content at Delta Bravo, an affiliation of Separated Parenting Access & Resource Center (S.P.A.R.C.)

The introduction sets the tone of the piece:

"This article will focus on those procedures which may lead to false allegations of sexual abuse. By focusing on false allegations, I will be emphasizing what I believe are the weaknesses in the present system of identifying sexual abuse in children. My personal opinion is that the vast majority of sexual abuse allegations are true and that the dedication of the experts that I am critical of in this article has resulted in the conviction of sex offenders who might otherwise have gone free to abuse other children. So much deserved praise has been given these experts that I do not feel the need to say more. However, there has been so little deserved criticism of these experts that I do feel the need to criticize those procedures that can lead to false accusations of sexual abuse. False accusations can be devastating both to the innocently accused and to the child incorrectly diagnosed as a sexual abuse victim."

For anyone that might be facing the possibility of false allegations of child sexual abuse, know first and foremost that it is a very real threat and you could face jail time if the event is not handled correctly. It might not even be a bad idea to print out the report and pass it along or burn a copy of the talk show program "SplitNTwo" with Dr. Reena Sommer to a cd as a gift. Knowledge is power and making a mistake in handling false allegations can be devastating and cause the complete loss of your freedom and/or access to your children. No matter what, hang in there and share the information.

Children Need Both Parents is about Family Preservation.
Protecting the parent-child bond is essential and ejecting government intrusion is necessary to accomplish that protection. You can help in your state by asking for model language to be introduced to respect and
protect parental rights.

Statistics for Joint Custody, IE: Joint Custody Statistics, are now available at a plain language website that you can reference in your rebuttals to propaganda that pops up from time to time on websites across the nation.

For the most part, there are distinct actions that can be taken in every State. Some of which includes requesting State Constitutional Amendments, Resolutions from Government Officials, and Statutory/Legislative requests to appropriate levels of government.

Children Need Both Parents can be referenced by anyone across the United States. If you have information that you would like updated, we will be expanding some simple references for judicial, legislative, and executive communications.

Children Need Both Parents is the authority on Family Preservation, Statistics, and the Parent-Child relationship. Parental Rights must be respected and protected by all. Say that phrase out loud and you will know exactly what I am talking about.

There are additional sites linked such as SplitNTwo.Com that should be reviewed as well for more official information and references. Let's spread the word. Tell two new people every day!

Chrissy Chrzanowski of SplitNTwo delivered a compelling, emotional, and true account of parental alienation before the crowds at DC FESTIVAL 2008 and now the entire Internet. Parental alienation is the mental manipulation of children, which can result in destroying a loving and warm relationship they once shared with a parent. Parental Alienation can occur in intact families, but is mostly seen in separated and divorced families. Parental Alienation is Child Abuse.

Chrissy's Speech Can Be Seen on Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VnFUJeDt8cI

Through the participation of so many dedicated advocates working throughout the United States and coming together in a united front, I have two things to say:

1. Parental Rights should be respected and protected by all.

2. We are united and we are everywhere.

The time for speaking to the choir is over, and all our efforts will be directed at content production, advocate training, and public outreach. We are united and we are everywhere. Respect parental rights or your election will enter our sights.

The National Family Preservation Festival 2008 (DCFESTIVAL2008.COM) was a great success. Bringing activists into the public eye, with the leaders like Brian Holladay of Fathers 4 Justice taking control and executing a spontaneous march and rallies throughout Washington DC. The video below is an independently created promotion of "Fathers-4-Justice", "Get Off The Bench", and the ideal that "Children should be educated and instructed in the principles of freedom."

Parental Rights Should be Respected and Protected by ALL!

The DC FESTIVAL 2008 brought activists and the public together due to the spectacular leadership of so many great people working together to MAKE an event happen. Don't wait for something to happen, make it happen my friends. Special thanks to all those that contributed, participated, and took action instead of waiting for it to happen.

Watch this blog after I get home from Washington DC for my official announcements and thank yous to the ones that made this entire thing possible! Let's make DC FESTIVAL 2009 an even larger success together!

Last night on the GET OFF THE BENCH talk show we indicated we were going to send out special announcements regarding final destination DC FESTIVAL 2008 after we spoke with our awesome Equal Parenting Bike Trekkers last night. This is that message. Print this email off as a task list if you have to, it is important. WE all have to get this stuff done. This email is intended to be redistributed today by leadership to County and State groups as well as to direct action activists that are ready to move beyond the keyboard.

Volunteers. We need several volunteers asap!!! Please fill out this form: FORM SITE FOR VOLUNTEER SIGN UP - digest readers email me at dcevents@laryholland.com for direct link.



We need people to notify the organizations listed at this site that a group supporting Parental Rights are going to be in Washington DC.

http://www.editgrid.com/user/indianacrc/DCFcontacts

1. click one of the links near the top of the spreadsheet, then log each organization that you email information to about the festival. Remember, the point of our advocacy efforts are not just to meet one another, but to recruit and notify outside organizations and agencies that we exist. Your help is invaluable to this end! We simply cannot do it all. We have to get more volunteers.


2. If you have questions, contact splitntwo@yahoo.com, amothersfight@yahoo.com, or loop_hole_justice@yahoo.com. They will be able to explain answers to any of your questions in the next 24 hours. Don't wait!


We have had around 23 states contribute something! This is awesome and we have done this in just under 60 days, and now we really have to pull off a miracle. We have raised more than 6 times the past efforts for this event, but have still fallen short with organizational benefactors waiting to get involved. You are part of that miracle of why we have been successful up to this point and we have made great strides demonstrating that individuals can make a real difference.


We can do some more and it can start with a donation, telephone call, or volunteer position. I think you will agree. Make a point to contact at least two people in states that have not contributed yet, and urge the importance. We need to get more states involved for this building block event and because many states have not hit their groups minimum. This hurts the event in a bad way and we have to cure this over the next 24-30 hours. Every person can help recruit $5.00 - $10.00 donations for the states that have not gotten involved. We want at least half the states to on the board as this is truly a NATIONAL issue. Let's prove it.


Also, look into any membership fees that you might have submitted to organizations and see if those organizations have contributed financially to a parental right's event in 2008. If not, this is the perfect event for larger organizations to step up to. We also have a need for speakers in select areas to complete the programs. If you sense any organizations are silent, with a "wait and see" approach to their support, then it stands to reason they will "wait and see" on legislative activities as well. People hate it when I make a statement like this, but as advocates, sometimes we have to take time and spend it advocating to our organizations. Speaking to ourselves, although important, impedes our ability to sway legislators. This is important when reviewing which organizations to support in the coming year after the election. I don't know about you, but I am done with the wait and see approach to advocacy. It gets us nowhere and results in more time away from our children.


I typically have supported activities of most known organizations and even I will be reviewing which ones I financially and physically support for the coming years and hope you will to. Remember the prediction email that I sent out? Conceptualize, Visualize, Materialize!


Here is something to consider: "The best way to predict the future is to invent it." I have been trying to help all invent a future where we have equal access to our children and help as many as possible individually as possible. Are we "waiting and seeing" and failing to invent the future? Parental Equality seems like a worthy issue to take up and fight.


Final letters of support need to get into me asap. Email them per the website under Get Involved at the top (#6 on the list). Go to the website and click "Get Involved" at the top and please get your individual, organization, and agency support letters for the event in. All the details are there. Recruit others to do the same asap. This is about delivering our voices post election! Let's get this done as soon as possible.


Despite all odds, we have made it this far, lets finish the home run stretch tonight on the conference call. We are short a tremendous number of physical items as a result of too few people stretching themselves to far. We need your help and expertise in key areas. You know someone with skills, get them on the call tonight.


Live Call In: 724-444-7444

Talkcast id: 43507

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Bring as many people as you can to the conference call tonight. It is important!


Also, flood the various yahoo groups with your Travel Arrangements, proposed stopping/mini rally points, and lodging details. Don't sit in silence, start reaching out to other people in your state! There are still some people that are making direct requests to just a few people instead of getting connected in their own networking circles and advocating. You should get your car pool requests spread out to and we know they are coming from every state. The only reason not to post is so you can say you didn't find one. No easy way outs, we have thought of all the excuses, so each of you PLEASE POST YOUR ITINERARIES. It is time for you to hold the hands of others instead of a few holding your hands. Everyone has the opportunity to lead and be a part of history. Don't wait for someone else to do what you are more than capable of doing. Show our government how serious you are about making every event a successful talking point in State and Federal circles.


Please follow through with the entirety of this message. Sure it is long, but how long have you had to wait to get government out of your homes? Let's work together to affect this election cycle. Everything is right here for us to carry the message Nationally, Regionally, and Locally. As we have to do is act my friends. The opportunity this year will escape us for at least 2 more years. Contribute as a volunteer or as a financial supporter.


Sincerely,



Lary Holland
GOOGLE: DC FESTIVAL 2008